- “If I show my lover how horny I really am, he will come immediately and the fun is over.”
- “I am fed up with guys coming within minutes after we started and expecting me to do the same.”
- “Men are so obsessively focused on their cocks and my pussy that they forget there are entire bodies attached to it.”
Women tell me this now, because they know I am a tantric gigolo. These women have experienced what great sex feels like, either with me or with a fellow ultimate lover. Before I started with tantra, women would not tell me this at all. This was probably because they were as clueless as I was that there is, in fact, a whole different sexual realm out there beyond the mediocre sex I had grown accustomed to.
Before the year 2013, sex to me meant being super focused on reaching my and her orgasm, preferably not too quick lest she would think I was a bad lover. ‘Not too quick’ in this case would mean that she was supposed to come first. By feverishly stimulating her clitoris, I would give it my best shot to have her orgasm before I would penetrate her with my cock. Because I knew that, once I would would do that, I would not take too long before I would come myself. The first question I often asked her after this happened was: “Did you come too?”
Perhaps some of you recognize this.
The funny thing was, I thought I was a good lover. I really did.