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How your breathing affects the flow of sexual energy

Let’s look at an animation on how your breathing affects the flow of sexual energy in your body. The way you breathe affects how sexual energy flows through your body. Short shallow breaths results in sexual tension building up too quickly. Together with too much muscle tension at the same...

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The importance of direct stimulation through the skin

[Scroll down to watch an animation about the direct and indirect pleasure route] How did we get so desensitized? Most of us are desensitised or even numb to a certain degree. We are heavily conditioned to use our sight above all our other senses. So it comes as no surprise that many of us...

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​Try sticking a finger up his ass - The importance of setting boundaries

Recently I was having lunch with two friends, Laura and Bri. Both ladies happened to be single at that moment, one just having come out of a long term relationship. They were both exploring and enjoying their time as sensual and sexual beings, and had their fair share of sexual partners over the...

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​The art of silliness

I have seen even the most playful and lighthearted people, both men and women, change into robots as soon as they become sexual. Their facial expressions stiffen, body movements become rigid and calculated. People will touch each other without actually feeling the other, just going through the...

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The Vagus Nerve: exhaling to reduce arousal (animation)

In the following animation, we will show what role your "vagus nerve" plays in the bedroom. The way you breathe has a big impact on your lovemaking, your capacity different orgasms and orgasmic states and - take notice guys - on ejaculation control. During sex, breathing in the right way is...

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The Parallels between BDSM and Tantra

As a medical scientist who also practices spirituality and studies psychotherapy, I am naturally drawn to studying the physical and psycho-spiritual aspects of human interaction. I am fascinated by ways in which I can explore and authentically express the light and dark aspects within myself. In...

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Why acknowledging your mistakes is so important during sex

The more you grow as an ultimate lover and the stronger your presence, vulnerability and integrity become, the easier it will be to feel into your partner. But from time to time as is the case in everything in life worth having, we will mess up or make mistakes as we learn the ropes. This is...

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Do you really need a tight pussy to have mind blowing sex?

Most people believe whole heartedly in this conviction or as I hope to explain misconception. Maybe you have a predilection to a tight pussy or a big cock. That is of course your prerogative. Our desires and tastes are our own to be enjoyed as we wish. However if you are not hung like Ron Jeremy...

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How to nail her secret longing

I often tell men that, in order to nail their lover's secret longing, they have to start venturing outside their comfort zone. They will need to try out new things during sexual play, things that turn them on. While doing this it is important that they closely watch their lover’s (bodily)...

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Why do we fear and long for letting go

Nobody can ‘fall for you’ if they are gripping onto something. Anything! In this blog I am going to touch upon something which is still rather taboo. If used in a respectful and right way, physical domination can be used as a gateway to hornier and more fulfilling sex. Physical domination as a...

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