The Ultimate Lovers Blog

Sex mechanics and dynamics • Sexual education • Intimacy and connection

Ten tips for Tantric Masturbation

In this video I give you some very useful tips on how to do tantric masturbation. Perhaps you, as a guy, wonder why you should do tantric masturbation, or what I would call "cock yoga"? And what the heck is it in the first place? Before I go on, let me say this to all women out there:...

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The magic effect of hugging the heart and pussy

How to connect your genitals with your heart? Well, pressing them against each other is a very direct way. A great way, really, as I will explain to you in this video. Doing this is also a beautiful way to start your lovemaking. You can press your heart area against your partners genitals,...

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Oops my girlfriend lost me in bed

Sometimes, women share with me that their partners disconnect from them during lovemaking. And this can be a little bit, well...painful experience, especially when they are in the process of letting go, sexually surrendering to their man, and trusting them to 'stay' with them. It is true...

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How to ask for what you want in the bedroom

Please read the text below also, as it contains valuable info not covered in the video. Many of the couples I have coached told me that they are afraid to express their sexual desires to their partner. They fear that their partner would take this the wrong way. That the other feels as if...

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This is what women crave for during sex (video)

During sex, many of us are used to being in their heads most of the time, thinking about work, about what to eat for dinner, when to walk the dog, secretly fantasising about this hot colleague or the woman that smiled at you on the street. The result is, we are mostly stuck in our heads, and not...

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Why switching roles is the best way to sexually understand your partner

Often I am asked how I - being a man - can talk from the feminine perspective, explaining to men (and voicing it for women) what women need in order to feel safe and sexually surrender to them. Let me tell you this: It can be very challenging for the feminine to trust the masculine during sex....

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Why women need to learn to trust their men during sex

While coaching couples, it happens frequently that the woman complains that her man is not ‘stepping into his masculine’ or ’not taking the lead’. She ‘can’t surrender to him sexually’, she ‘is not feeling him’, she wants to ‘let go’, but she doesn’t trust him. The man, on the other hand,...

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There is a great guru between your legs

“Yumm, you feel so juicy and amazing and I love every part of your body,” he whispers in my ear while we make love. I enjoy this moment too, and feel my body relax even deeper while hearing his words of appreciation. “Your pussy is so beautiful, and feels so tight!” I suddenly feel my breathing...

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7 tips how to control your ejaculation (video)

Many guys ask me how I mastered my ejaculation during sex, so I decided to make a video about it. I'll discuss why you would want to do this in the first place. What exactly are the benefits, for both you and your partner? It is not just about being able to have longer sex, for...

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How to create a strong sexual attraction in the bedroom (video)

Watch this video in which I explain further how you can create a strong sexual attraction in the bedroom. Sexual attraction is based on the polarity between two opposing energies. Regardless of gender, we all have masculine and feminine energies within us. The more opposed these energies...

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