The Ultimate Lovers Blog

Sex mechanics and dynamics, Sex in relation to life, Sexperiences and more

The Parallels between BDSM and Tantra

As a medical scientist who also practices spirituality and studies psychotherapy, I am naturally drawn to studying the physical and psycho-spiritual aspects of human interaction. I am fascinated by ways in which I can explore and authentically express the light and dark aspects within myself. In...

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Why acknowledging your mistakes is so important during sex

The more you grow as an ultimate lover and the stronger your presence, vulnerability and integrity become, the easier it will be to feel into your partner. But from time to time as is the case in everything in life worth having, we will mess up or make mistakes as we learn the ropes. This is...

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Do you really need a tight pussy to have mind blowing sex?

Most people believe whole heartedly in this conviction or as I hope to explain misconception. Maybe you have a predilection to a tight pussy or a big cock. That is of course your prerogative. Our desires and tastes are our own to be enjoyed as we wish. However if you are not hung like Ron Jeremy...

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How to nail her secret longing

I often tell men that, in order to nail their lover's secret longing, they have to start venturing outside their comfort zone. They will need to try out new things during sexual play, things that turn them on. While doing this it is important that they closely watch their lover’s (bodily)...

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Why do we fear and long for letting go

Nobody can ‘fall for you’ if they are gripping onto something. Anything! In this blog I am going to touch upon something which is still rather taboo. If used in a respectful and right way, physical domination can be used as a gateway to hornier and more fulfilling sex. Physical domination as a...

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3 reasons why sharing your kinks with your lover is vital

In this blog post I outline 3 reasons why sharing your sexual kinks and fantasies with your lover is a vital component in bringing about deeper connections and ultimately hornier, more passionate sex for you and your lover. We have all heard the old saying ‘different strokes for different...

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Masculine Vulnerability: why it takes balls to become vulnerable

One of the basic premises for good sex, and for creating a good polarity between you and a woman is that you – just as you want from her – become vulnerable. Being vulnerable has nothing to do with being weak. It is rather the opposite. Showing your vulnerability is an act of...

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Why eye contact is scary but vital

Do you find it difficult to look at your lover during sex? If so, you are not alone. For most people, men as well as women, it is scary to maintain eye contact while being horny and having sex. This is a shame, because keeping eye contact is perhaps the most important way of establishing and...

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Why men need to slow down during sex

Men are like nitrogen rockets when it comes to sex. They only need a little flame, and they take off with a blast. Women, on the other hand, are more like trains that run on coal. It takes time for them to get going, but once they are heated up sufficiently, they will outlast almost any man in...

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The difference between the masculine and the feminine

Men and women are different. Their genetics are different. Even as embryos, men and women are already exposed to different hormones. As children, teenagers and adults, men and women are treated differently. Societal expectations influence men and women differently. All these factors contribute to...

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