How to connect your genitals with your heart? Well, pressing them against each other is a very direct way. A great way, really, as I will explain to you in this video. Doing this is also a beautiful way to start your lovemaking.


You can press your heart area against your partners genitals, or press your genitals against your partners heart. Both are very intimate and vulnerable positions.

When you press your heart against your partner's genitals, so basically hugging them with your arms wrapped around low in the waist, just above the bum, you connect with the pussy/cock in a very soft and gentle way. It is also a great way to ease the performance anxiety both men and women - in their own ways - experience when it comes down to doing the deed.

When you hug the pussy (or the cock), it feels a bit like saying: "Hey, nothing needs to happen. I love this part of you regardless. It's fine the way it is (And I am already enjoying this big time)."

In this video I talk about my own experience, giving my love, energy, respect to the pussy in this way. I also share what happened to me when a woman did this to me the first time (spoiler alert: I cried my eyes out).

There is so much pressure on our genitals to perform in a certain way during sex, objectified as instruments that should always be erect, huge, wet, tight (all totally nonsense by the way), that this other way of approaching it can be very emotional and a vulnerable moment for the recipient indeed.

But also for the giver it is a powerful gesture. It may feel that your partners sexual energy flows from their genitals right into your heart area and beyond. That is not only very nice and loveable, it can also feel pretty damn horny.

And now for the perhaps more scary part: you can also press your genitals against your partners heart area.

There is a bit more oomph and a higher sexual charge to this position, and it is a very powerful way to press your sexual energy right straight into into your partners heart without them having to do anything. Heck, it could be part of a massage! With this position, you may want to use some coconut or other kind of oil, as it may feel very nice for the both of you to gently slide up and down a bit.

Also in this position, there is little room for performance anxiety, as there is no hole there, nothing needs to be hard or wet, so both of you can relax and enjoy the sensations in the body.