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Sex mechanics and dynamics, Sex in relation to life, Sexperiences and more

How pleasing behavior makes a man untrustworthy

A pleaser is someone who acts and talks in a way he thinks will give him love, appreciation and approval from another person. This makes his actions conditional and is – to a certain extent – manipulative behavior. In his excellent book “No more mister nice guy”, dr. Robert Glover explains that a...

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Don’t speed up when she likes it!

I have seen it happen time and again that the man speeds up whatever he is doing during sex, because he sees his partner likes what he is doing. Guys, please don’t do that. The fact that she likes what you are doing is not an invitation to speed up. Sometimes it is even a good idea to slow down...

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Get out of the rabbit habit: slow down during sex!

Slow down everything you do in bed with about 25% of what you think is normal speed. (Some member of the Ultimate Lovers team actually say that when you start your ‘practice’ of becoming an ultimate lover you should slow down with about 50%, but I don’t want to freak you out too much). There are...

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How to take a break so save yourself from ejaculation

The easiest trick in the book to save your mojo and not blast away the sexual tension by cumming, is by taking a break during sex. The more you practice this, the easier it will be to identify when you need a break. When you start on this path of becoming an ultimate lover, take a break when you...

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Get ready for some great sex: deep belly breathing!

Most people aren’t really aware of how they breathe during sex. If you want to be able to have sex for prolonged periods of time, you need to become more aware of your breathing patterns while having sex. This is especially important for men, as they will have a peak orgasm much...

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Focus on her body, but don't lose yourself

[This blog is part of the "Expand your Pleasure: how men can delay their orgasm" blog series. If you want to start with the first blog, click here.] During sex you want to enjoy the feeling of your lovers naked body against yours. You want to taste her lips kissing you, smell her...

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Why taking a break is sometimes crucial during sex

[This blog is part of the Expand your Pleasure: how men can delay their orgasm blog series. If you want to start with the first blog, click here.] The easiest trick in the book to save your mojo and not blast away the sexual tension by cumming, is by taking a break during sex. The more you...

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Relax your muscles for prolonging and deepening sex

[This blog is part of the Expand your Pleasure: how men can delay their orgasm blog series. If you want to start with the first blog, click here.] Apart from breathing deeply and slowly, try to consciously relax the muscles in your body as much as possible during sex. This will make it easier to...

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Train yourself to breathe deeply and slowly

[This blog is part of the Expand your Pleasure: how men can delay their orgasm blog series. If you want to start with the first blog, click here.] The way you breathe has a great impact on how the sexual energy flows through your body. By breathing shallow and/or quickly, you build up the sexual...

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Expand your pleasure: How men can delay their orgasm

The 5 minute disaster On average, the act of having sex takes about 5 minutes. This may be enough for both of you to have a quick orgasm, but it is not nearly enough to bring any woman into sexual ecstasy. If you want to experience great sex and mind-blowing orgasms, you will have to work on...

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